Here are the sides to my coin....
I am prior service, ISR flight crew - but not a pilot while in the military.
Got my pilot license in the civilian world 25 years ago.
I consider myself an "ok" pilot. Not great. Good enough not to kill anyone, but my skills are a mere shadow of those held by some of my peers. After a pilot evaluation once, I asked how I did. The evaluator said, "Well, we're still alive" - so I have that going for me.
In 25 years I've seen a mixed bag of pilots out there. My take on just a few that I have worked with:
I used to fly with an ex-Coasty who was a genuinely good and friendly guy, would share any of his knowledge with you, and who was the kind of pilot that I hope to be one day.
I flew with an ex-Nam era pilot who was the same.
I have a few civilian pilot friends who are every bit as competant.
I flew SIC with a former PD pilot who wasn't fit to run a fuel farm, yet somehow had an H-ATP.
At one operation, there was a Chief Pilot, ex-military, who thought GOD had come down and pinned on his wings. He was a complete A-hole. I don't know how his flying was, but it would have required an S-64 to carry his ego.
I flew with a foreigner who thought Skymaster was a title. Like Captain or Lieutenant. Maybe it was.
Summary: I don't know.... what was the question?